Assalamualaikum.
Today is almost 1 month since i came back to work, after confinement leave. So far, so good. Too many things happen for the past few months.
Some people said, the pregnancy journey is interesting. I admit that and agree with that, even its during PKP. Some people also said, the postpartum aka confinement days are more interesting and enjoyable. I doubted.
Why? Because..i almost had, maybe already had postpartum blues. I felt like i had postpartum depression on & off during my confinement days. There are few precipitating factors. Let me keep it to myself only.
Luckily, my support system surrond me at that time was the best ever! Thanks to all of them. You know who you are. Im feeling blessed. 🥰 Im so grateful for that.
Also, thanks for whom, made me realized..who am i to them. Now, i knew that my place. Im not part of them. It’s not as i thought. Need to be self-aware, need to distance myself from them. Sort of..boundary have to be set. Never cross! Never ever cross that. You are nobody, you are just an outsider.
Hope that there is still happy glow! ✨
While scrolling down my facebook, i came across one article..its gently touch my heart.
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"ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER?
During a seminar, a woman asked, "How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, “It depends. Is that your partner?”
In all seriousness, she answered “How did you know?”
“Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind.” replied the author.
Here’s the answer:
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called “falling” in love.
People in love sometimes say, I was swept of my feet. Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.
Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, “Am I with the right person?” And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone
else. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.
I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.
Because (listen carefully to this)
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a DECISION."
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Always doa for the best. InsyaAllah. Aminnn.
Cc: Lately, me too tired. Tired with everything. 😶😶 Last night was eventful oncall. 💪🏻💪🏻 Hanging there fifi! 😘 May need to seek divine pleasure. 🌷
